How intuitive are you about relationships?

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You just met an amazing man. He is intelligent, well spoken, sexy and available. Most important, he has a job! Everything seems so right, except for that feeling in the pit of your stomach … the one you would rather ignore. There are times when we all want to throw caution to the wind. Unfortunately the times we ignore this feeling inside are the most important for us to listen. We all hear the intuitive phone ringing, but instead we tune it out!

So why is it so difficult to trust your intuition?

When we meet people for the first time, they tend to put their best feet forward. For example, they will not always reveal their jealous, possessive side or their many undesirable quirks. Instead they might even deny that they having a jealous bone in their bodies. To try to gain your acceptance, they will try to be everything they think you want. Or maybe they are in denial and have not admitted to themselves that they actually have some serious character flaws.

If this is true, then we are faced with an internal dilemma. Everything he or she says sounds wonderful, but inside a little voice says NO. Do you believe what the object of your affection is telling you? After all, he or she seems so sincere, how could you not believe him or her? Or do you trust your gut. How many times have you asked yourself why you did not pay attention to the first impressions you received? If the information is not tangible, sometimes it is difficult to trust. How do you know you are not being paranoid or overly cautious? If you have experienced this feeling before and ignored it, only to have terrible consequences, then it might be time to pay attention.

Intuition can speak to us in many ways. We can have messages in our dreams, such as a lover cheating on us or a warning that we should find the nearest exit. However, sometimes the messages can be unclear or challenging to interpret since dreams oftentimes use symbols rather than exact meanings.

Perhaps we are en route to a specific destination and we just cannot make it there due to an accident, the car breaking down or accidentally driving past the street on which we intended to turn. Sometimes intuition can manifest in the form of a physical ailment, such as an upset stomach preventing us from going out at all. If you always get an upset stomach or have constant fears of leaving the house, it might be something more than intuition and you should probably talk to a licensed professional. But, if the feeling comes on strong or in an unusual way, your subconscious might be trying to tell you something.

There is a quote by Benjamin Franklin, “Believe none of what you hear, and only half of what you see.” Sometimes what we see or hear is an illusion, which is why it is important to trust our own intuitive impressions before entering a relationship.

Below is a list of examples of signs of a negative situation:

• A sick feeling in your stomach or a headache
• Something just feels off, but you cannot put your finger on it
• The hair on your arm standing up
• A dark feeling about the person’s energy that causes discomfort
• Feeling you need to get away from the person or leave the situation
• Feeling drained when you are around the person


So the next time you hear the intuitive phone ringing, be sure to answer the phone!


If you would like to read more about intuition, relationships, or how to attract positive people in your life visit the following sites:

How to attract positive people and positive situations

Intuition: How to recognize, access and trust it