Help, he won't stop talking about the ex

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Dear Lynsey,

I recently started dating a wonderful guy. He’s so amazing and we talk for hours. At first I enjoyed getting to know him and sharing stories. He went through a painful breakup and gave me some history on the relationship. I’ve tried to be there and comfort him on an emotional level. Recently, I discovered he’s still in contact with her. He tells me I have nothing to worry about, but I don’t understand why he takes her calls. He continues bringing up this female in conversation and I’m starting to wonder if he is really over her. I’m beginning to feel more like a therapist than a girlfriend. Is it possible he will ever love me as much as he loves her or should I just walk away?

Sincerely, Hurting Inside

Dear Hurting Inside,

There is nothing wrong with learning some history about a potential love interest. But, when conversations turn into therapy sessions, it might be time to reassess the relationship. Not many women relish in constantly hearing about the ex, especially when that person is still very much alive in his mind. When a man incessantly speaks of another woman, it’s similar to saying, “you don’t matter” or at least that’s how we feel. The fact that he’s still having phone conversations is an indicator that he hasn’t moved on. Why date someone who insists on living in the past? Give him the number of a good psychologist and send him on his way. Life is too short to waste on a guy who doesn’t make you the number one priority.

Lynsey